Here are few excerpts from St Catherine of Siena
* Jesus to Catherine of Siena: "I give spiritual consolation in prayer, now in one way, now in another. But it is not my intention that the soul should receive this consolation foolishly, paying more attention to the gift than to me." (when we receive the gift we should look more intently at the giver)
You are asking for something that would be harmful to your salvation if you had it--so by not getting what you've asked, you really are getting what you want."